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It necessary for everyone to go through the ‘Hoe phase’?, that is, before they settle down with one particular partner and remain faithful?

Well many have had that question and sometimes wonder if they will be able to settle down faithfully with that special some one of their dreams without first exploring their sexual fantasies.

But what is the infamous ‘Hoe-Phase’ really?

As the urban dictionary puts it, this is a stage in a person’s life where he or she is fine with exploring promiscuous activities and connecting with random people.

During this phase, a person has a high tendency of going clubbing and dancing provocatively with strangers, flirting and kissing non-stop.

However, a person can choose to put a stop to these activities or not. But can he or she choose not to indulge in them? Well let’s find out.

A young woman aged 24 said it is necessary for a person to go through this phase as it is part of the ‘getting to know yourself’ process.

Sandra Chisulo observed that people have to go through all the necessary processes in order to grow, and it is not all the time that such activities lead to sexual intercourse.

“I for one have been through it and currently I am in a stable relationship with the ‘love of my life’ but then again, we all lead different lives so I am speaking for myself,” she added.

Miss Chisulo explained that going through the ‘hoe-phase’ helps individuals to know exactly the kind of person they would want to spend the rest of their lives with.

But contrary to Ms. Chisulo’s input, Natasha Msiska said most people who indulge in such promiscuous activities do not take any relationship seriously as they are used to being flirts.

“I do not believe that everyone needs to be a flirt at some point in their life, as far as I know we all choose what we want to do with our life… so what if I do not engage in such activities? it does not mean that I am going to be unfaithful or unsatisfied with my partner.”

“Besides I believe there is someone for everyone and I cannot be wasting my time with someone I already know will just play with my emotions. Why not just take my time like i always do,” she said.

On the other hand, Bwalya Mulenga had a different view from the ladies; he said it’s a norm for guys to explore their love-life before they settle for someone they feel possesses the qualities of their future wife.

“There are more women than men in the world, so we guys just love the idea of being with different women at some point in our life and picking one woman from the huge population of beautiful women is quite hard,” he said.

Additionally, Mr. Mulenga said one must decide the course of his own life and make wise decisions because in as much as this may just be a phase, some people continue with such kind of a promiscuous behavior even after settling down.

Therefore, going through a hoe-phase is a decision one must make and it is not entirely a must that one experiences it.

It may be easy to start engaging in promiscuous activities but the question to ask oneself is whether it will be easy to stop.

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